There is nothing worse than being in a relationship or dating a man and having a fantastic time talking, joking, and discussing more serious matters when suddenly your relationship is over. Then you noticed that he’s been more distant recently… He’s not interested in your touch nor your flirtatious wit anymore.”
How much do men have to deal with on a daily basis in terms of” input”
In other words, how much is he being bombarded with on a daily basis? Is it the constant stream of emails, phone calls, and social media messages?
Because of all the chaos, how are you expected to get through it all and get what you want from him, given all that’s going on?
What you must understand is the following:
In some ways, love is like a form of advertising (You need to be direct with a man, especially when he has so much going on, has a limited attention span, and doesn’t necessarily want to hear what you say)
You don’t want to overlook anything that could jeopardize your message’s ability to stand out in the competitive industry.
To be effective, a marketing message must break through “the clutter.” A message that is difficult to understand, convoluted, or simply too long will be ignored. The client isn’t engaged because of the marketer’s failure to engage them. In other words, no one hears what you’re saying.
Let your imagination run wild with the variety of discussions you could have with a man if you used this “marketing” image in your head.
Think about how many different thoughts and feelings are rushing through your mind and body at the same time. Say that you’re getting impatient with him because he’s always late. In order to express what you’re thinking, you might say something like this to yourself:
“I’m stunned that you’ve done this again! Isn’t it obvious to you how disrespectful you are? It’s not just your opinion that matters, is it? Whenever you’re a few minutes late, I’ll be waiting for you. We were running a little late for supper last week. We were unable to see the opening of the film last month. After this, we’re going to make our friends wait. When you do this, it bothers me to no end! You have to do something about that…”
Almost to the point of breaking, he’ll believe he’s let you down (which he has). What we would consider the “logical” course of action is to correct his mistakes and change his methods, but he’ll only get furious at you for doing so.
This is when he’ll fight you, get furious, or move in your opposite direction—to despair and depression—and it will be much more difficult for you to pull him back.
In order to understand why your attempts to “get through” to a man haven’t worked so far – and how to turn things around quickly (even if he’s withdrawn, furious or depressed), do this:
“I’m in a bad mood today. For me, both waiting and keeping my friends waiting is unbearable. I don’t want to be a downer all the time, but I’m at a loss. Are there any solutions that you can suggest?”
There is no reference to “you” in the Script (except for the critical “What do you think?” bit at the end), but you have clearly expressed your displeasure and you have not explicitly criticized him (except for the important “What do you think?” part at the end).
As I mentioned earlier, a man is constantly bombarded with messages and information.
In addition, men lack the ability to “multi-task” in the same way that women do. He’s easily sidetracked. He can easily let YOU and your needs fall by the wayside as he becomes preoccupied with things that SEEM important at the time.
Emotions. Authentic, gut-level sensations that can be heard can help him rediscover what it means to be human.
When you think about it, “the tiger is held captive in the gap between the bars.” 🐅
A man is no different. When you know what to say and what not to say, you establish a safe environment for you and your partner. A place where you can be yourself without fear of being judged, and a place where a man can be held in a way that makes him happy.
This “gap between the bars” for a man is a skill that must be learned.
Learning to communicate your thoughts and feelings in a way that a man can actually hear is the key to this whole process. He’ll be yours forever if you do.
You can learn how to communicate properly with a man so that you don’t mistakenly push him away. Having the appropriate mentor is all that is required.
I’d like to be the one to guide you through this,
I’ll show you how to become closer to your man, how to embrace your complete self, and how to create a safe space for your man to be himself around you.
In the end, it’s all about how well you communicate with a man and how much control you give him over what he says and does.
In my blog you’ll also learn:
Your man’s sudden transition from being genuinely engaged and playful to feeling like he is a million miles away isn’t something you’re alone in experiencing.
The way we communicate with him can make or break a great night with him!👩❤️👨
After you learn how to communicate with him in this new method, you will be able to become even closer to him. So if you’re ready to continue this journey with me, sign up for my newsletter and find out everything you need to know about relationships!