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Don’t Make This Mistake: Unintentionally Wrecking Your Relationship’s Chances at Intimacy
Posted on October 18, 2022
There is nothing worse than being in a relationship or dating a man and having a fantastic time talking, joking, and discussing more serious matters when suddenly your relationship is over. Then you noticed that he’s been more distant recently… He’s not interested in your touch nor your flirtatious wit anymore.”
So, what exactly happened? You ponder: “What did I do?” “Did I say anything to cause this?” “We’ve been together so long! We should be more connected and feeling more intimate, but I feel further from him than I ever have.”
When he suddenly flips, it’s awful to see from a distance. A total surprise, with no warning or explanation! It feels like you’re suffocating in a 🌊 sea of doubt and confusion… Also, you’re probably at a loss for words or actions that could restore the situation to normalcy!
You put on your 🥼 scientist labcoat and start trying to figure out what went wrong. Or if he’s changed his mind. Something mus thave happened for him to change so drastically.
Now’s a good time to take a 😮💨breath and contemplate something introspective. The answer to the issue of why your relationship’s connection has waned is not something you’ve been able to pinpoint on your own.
What’s the matter?
How much do men have to deal with on a daily basis in terms of” input”
In other words, how much is he being bombarded with on a daily basis? Is it the constant stream of emails, phone calls, and social media messages?
Because of all the chaos, how are you expected to get through it all and get what you want from him, given all that’s going on?
What you must understand is the following:
In some ways, love is like a form of advertising (You need to be direct with a man, especially when he has so much going on, has a limited attention span, and doesn’t necessarily want to hear what you say)
Marketers who are good at what they do realize that in order for their product and message to stand out, they must be concise and direct, and they must completely omit everything that a potential buyer might not want to hear!
You don’t want to overlook anything that could jeopardize your message’s ability to stand out in the competitive industry.
To be effective, a marketing message must break through “the clutter.” A message that is difficult to understand, convoluted, or simply too long will be ignored. The client isn’t engaged because of the marketer’s failure to engage them. In other words, no one hears what you’re saying.
Understanding A Man's 💙 Heart and How To Get Through To Him
Let your imagination run wild with the variety of discussions you could have with a man if you used this “marketing” image in your head.
Consider this:
Your thoughts and feelings are all about what you want a man to do to fulfill your desires.
Think about how many different thoughts and feelings are rushing through your mind and body at the same time. Say that you’re getting impatient with him because he’s always late. In order to express what you’re thinking, you might say something like this to yourself:
“I’m stunned that you’ve done this again! Isn’t it obvious to you how disrespectful you are? It’s not just your opinion that matters, is it? Whenever you’re a few minutes late, I’ll be waiting for you. We were running a little late for supper last week. We were unable to see the opening of the film last month. After this, we’re going to make our friends wait. When you do this, it bothers me to no end! You have to do something about that…”
If this is what you say, there’s only one natural thing that will happen. A man’s natural reaction, when confronted with an issue like this, is to defend himself. 🤺 Because you are literally attacking him!
Almost to the point of breaking, he’ll believe he’s let you down (which he has). What we would consider the “logical” course of action is to correct his mistakes and change his methods, but he’ll only get furious at you for doing so.
This is when he’ll fight you, get furious, or move in your opposite direction—to despair and depression—and it will be much more difficult for you to pull him back.
In order to understand why your attempts to “get through” to a man haven’t worked so far – and how to turn things around quickly (even if he’s withdrawn, furious or depressed), do this:
- Less is more when trying to connect through your words…
Here’s a basic yet incredibly effective Love Script from my book 🏃How to Make Men Chase You for you in this situation:
“I’m in a bad mood today. For me, both waiting and keeping my friends waiting is unbearable. I don’t want to be a downer all the time, but I’m at a loss. Are there any solutions that you can suggest?”
And that’s it!
There is no reference to “you” in the Script (except for the critical “What do you think?” bit at the end), but you have clearly expressed your displeasure and you have not explicitly criticized him (except for the important “What do you think?” part at the end).
The ball is in his court! 🎾
To help him feel better about himself, he now has a way of making things better for himself!
In fact, what you didn’t say is more effective in getting you the outcomes you desire than what you did say.
- Now you need to make that communication into a meaningful connection…
As I mentioned earlier, a man is constantly bombarded with messages and information.
Every day, we are assaulted with a deluge of new information. We live in a 📺 digitally-driven world, so this is extremely relevant.
In addition, men lack the ability to “multi-task” in the same way that women do. He’s easily sidetracked. He can easily let YOU and your needs fall by the wayside as he becomes preoccupied with things that SEEM important at the time.
Because of all the mental activity and bombardment he’s going through, what he really needs from you is your feelings. 💖
Emotions. Authentic, gut-level sensations that can be heard can help him rediscover what it means to be human.
Men Experience Things That Are Quite Contrary To What They've Become Accustomed To
And your ability to connect with him is based on how you convey those feelings. What you say, and what you don’t say, says a lot about your character.
In a famous quote, it is explained:
When you think about it, “the tiger is held captive in the gap between the bars.” 🐅
A man is no different. When you know what to say and what not to say, you establish a safe environment for you and your partner. A place where you can be yourself without fear of being judged, and a place where a man can be held in a way that makes him happy.
This “gap between the bars” for a man is a skill that must be learned.
Learning to communicate your thoughts and feelings in a way that a man can actually hear is the key to this whole process. He’ll be yours forever if you do.
You can learn how to communicate properly with a man so that you don’t mistakenly push him away. Having the appropriate mentor is all that is required.
I’d like to be the one to guide you through this,
I’ll show you how to become closer to your man, how to embrace your complete self, and how to create a safe space for your man to be himself around you.
In the end, it’s all about how well you communicate with a man and how much control you give him over what he says and does.
In my blog you’ll also learn:
- An entirely new method of relating to a man so that he'll want to be with you all the time, and that will make him want to touch and hug you, and tell you that he loves you.
- The tiny adjustment in energy that can make a huge difference in how a man starts to seek you again - he'll want you all to himself!
- A 3 step guide to get a man to open up and reveal his own sentiments with you. You'll never have to be afraid to be yourself in front of him again, and he'll be more enamored with you as a result.
- The precise words and body language signals that men are attracted to, and how to boost your self-esteem so that you feel wonderful no matter what he does
- Get the commitment you desire without asking for it — the guy will think he came up with the idea himself!
Your man’s sudden transition from being genuinely engaged and playful to feeling like he is a million miles away isn’t something you’re alone in experiencing.
The way we communicate with him can make or break a great night with him!👩❤️👨
After you learn how to communicate with him in this new method, you will be able to become even closer to him. So if you’re ready to continue this journey with me, sign up for my newsletter and find out everything you need to know about relationships!
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