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Invincible: Feel More Secure in Your Relationship

Posted on October 18, 2022

In the current state of your relationship, if you’re feeling uneasy and nervous, you may want to take a step back and take a breather with me. I know exactly how you feel, and I’m here to help you overcome your insecurities in your relationship.

Every time a guy who seemed so into me started drifting away, I did the only thing I knew how to do:

I made every effort to make myself seem more attractive to him.

(OR I started to pull away from him too so it wouldn’t hurt me so badly when he’d inevitably leave… which would always become a self-fulfilling prophecy.)

I tried to attract his attention by making myself appear and act more sensually. As I tried being kind, sexy, loving, and rational, the further he seemed to distance himself from me.

After dating a man and living with a man who had been head over heels for me for two years, he abruptly ended our relationship. Out of the blue.

I felt so defeated and exhausted. And I asked myself, “What exactly am I doing wrong? He’d been just fine in the beginng. Wasn’t it his idea to move in together? Wasn’t all this his idea?”

In most cases, they couldn't explain what changed on their end..

When it came to one particular guy who was supposedly “so into me”, it seemed as though he had decided to “opt out.” …and then in the space of one week, he’d gone from being interested in talking about a wedding and how he “loved doing life” with me to saying “you’re just not the one” and “I’m not sexually attracted to you anymore.” Wow, below the belt 🥊, dude.

It was the most perplexing state of mind I’d ever experienced in my life. I felt totally blindsided.

I kept having these kinds of encounters with men, and they always left me feeling even more insecure than before. It didn’t take long before I began to feel hollow inside. Even though I had no idea what I was looking for or how I felt about myself and potential suitors, I was more unsure of myself and my future.

Even though I’m grateful that these relationships didn’t work out for me (and how fortunate I was that these men showed me their true colors so before marriage), I know now what I could have done, and not done, that would have made me feel so much better and that would have turned the tables so that I was the one making the decision, rather than them.

Knowing the difference between “liking” someone” and “loving” someone…

My newfound understanding of how to create an emotional connection with a man has given me the ability to teach you how to do the same.

To help you get started, I’m going to give you a tool that will help you attract every man you meet, even the one you’re currently dating or married to.

Because it gets you back in your body, your feelings and emotions, and your Feminine Energy and power, it sounds a little unusual. But it’s actually very practical.

Consider some of what I was doing with this man that drove him away, and then consider what you are doing that doesn’t seem to be working in your relationship with him:

Now, I want you to imagine yourself gazing at your man and experiencing the emotions you feel. Assume he’s looking at you and leaning forward to you.

Do you have a yearning and a longing in your heart🫀? Your heart must be clenching as you silently beg him to stop talking and just make everything “Okay,” is that right? If that’s the case, can you feel your heart racing and your mind racing 🏎️, frantically trying to close the deal?

The kicker is that this is the kind of energy that pushes him away…

Our efforts to keep it under control are futile, because he can sense it. He will be kept at a safe distance even if it isn’t strong enough to really force him away

So how do you bring him closer? What is the opposite of pushing him away? What pulls him closer? What inspires him to chase you? What makes him wake up in the morning and the first thing he wants to do is text you?

Men are drawn to women who have a strong sense of self-confidence and delight in their own bodies. It’s your Feminine Power, and you can use it. This is where your sense of safety is rooted deep within you! You can be strong and powerful on the inside and soft and inviting on the outside – this is true feminine power or what I call being a 🌻wild sunflower.

Her deepest pleasure could be found in his company since she trusts and opens herself up so entirely to his touch. She can be this vulnerable because she is strong on the inside, and she knows that she will be okay no matter what. This is where the security comes from… from knowing in your heart that you’ll be fine no matter what.

When he loves you, he wants to see how much you enjoy that love. Being vulnerable and sharing yourself with him is how you show him you enjoy the love you’re creating with him.

Your feminine strength will be activated when you can love yourself in his company, and you’ll have him wrapped around your tiny finger in no time. He’ll be “blown away,” and he’ll never want to leave your side ever again.

A woman confident in her feminine power has absolutely no competition, no matter how many beautiful women there are around.

You don’t have to work at being seductive to a guy; it is just natural to you as a feminine woman. Be authentic and true; dive deep down into your feelings; bring them out in an attractive way to him.

Your insecurities will fade away if you learn to appreciate yourself and fall in love with a strong, masculine man.

He simply wants to see you completely enamored with your own life and all that it has to offer. Genuine self-honoring, not self-obsessed and self-centeredness.

This article will make such a huge impact on your relationship with your partner, or if you’re dating, you’ll discover that you’re attracting higher-quality men if you practice it often!

There is a slew of other strategies I’d like to impart to you so that you might overcome your fear of intimacy altogether. Why don’t you grab my book How To Make Men Chase You and find how to become a 🌻wild sunflower forever and never go back to that lonely, insecure place!