Why Your Man Is Going Hot and Cold (and What to Do About It!)
Posted on October 18, 2022
🔥Fire and 🧊Ice baby! You meet a wonderful man who lavishes you with love and care. When he compliments you, you begin to believe that your relationship dreams are about to come true.
Then… all of a sudden, he stops calling as frequently as he used to. Or he holds off on setting up plans with you. It hurts when you feel like he’s not truly present when he’s with you. We’ve all been there, and it’s a dreadful feeling. 😣
You no longer get 🦋butterflies in your belly; instead, all you feel is a gut-wrenching pain that you don’t know how to deal with. You’re on edge. The only time you can unwind is when he’s around, but you never know when that will happen. You soon begin scrutinizing his every move on 🕵️♀️social media and engaging in constant discussion about it with your girlfriends
Why is he sending you confusing signals? 📡
Men who exhibit hot and cold behavior may appear to be unaware of their “passive-aggressive” behavior toward women. However, most “hot and cold” guys are fully conscious of their actions, and here are a couple of reasons why a man has suddenly gone cold on you.
Sometimes, men start to distance themselves when the 💐 fun stage of dating is over. The reasons could be that he is not as interested or that he is unsure about his position. He’s truly unsure of his feelings and doesn’t want to manipulate you by showing too much affection. He might be attempting to take things slowly.
3. He’s 🧵 stringing you along – and weighing his options.
They behave as though they are still in high school and enjoy the challenge of wooing you until you become a victim to their charms. As soon as they believe you’re 🪝 hooked, they get bored and move on.
No matter how amazing, attractive, or intelligent you are, they still get bored since you were never really the focus of their attention. Instead, the excitement of the 🏹 hunt is the focus, and you are the self-aggrandizing “prize of the moment.”
ON THE OTHER HAND.
Some hot-and-cold men might not be ready for a committed relationship at this time. He might even really like you, but he can’t decide if you’re “the one.”
How to spot a hot and cold man
Does he prefer physical intimacy over emotional intimacy? Do you ever feel as though he is using you? Remember that when he is blowing 🌬️🔥 “hot,” he has a reason!
Assuming he checks all the ⛳red flags, what’s your next move? How do you dig yourself out of this conundrum? Is the relationship worth pursuing anymore?
I’ll be honest with you, it’s not part of your job description to change these men.
Any attempt to do so will simply harm your self-esteem and undermine your belief that you can find a good partner. The best course of action is to entirely ✂️cut this guy out of your life.
A “hot and cold” man like this will quickly turn “hot” on you again if you reject him, so be careful. He may not want you completely, but he can’t stand you making the decisions.
In the end, you have to accept that he’s not right for you because he lacks the emotional capacity to commit to you deeply, intimately, and for the rest of your life (which you deserve). Walk away and don’t look back.
You can’t put your life on hold waiting for him to change. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put in the work to get the right man. Sign up for my newsletter and start the journey you need to get your love life back on track to thriving 🪴💗.